Love Has No Borders is a project to help couples who come from different countries and cultures navigate the unexpected bumps encountered when different cultural expectations rub up against each other. My goal is to provide a resource to help individuals be intentional in thinking about and communicating what is important to them in the context of their relationships, and to offer some guidance along the way.
My belief is that identifying different expectations up-front and planning for them may help avoid future irreconcilable conflict in the relationship. Or, it may help you realize before the children come along that what you want in life isn’t going to match. You may really love each other, but are you compatible? It may be helpful before you get too far to talk about things like:
- How do you feel about sending money to his family overseas or having her mother move in to provide childcare after the baby comes?
- Can you eat rice every day for dinner? Can you live without it?
- What, exactly, do you think a wife is supposed to do?
Love Has No Borders: Navigating Your Cross-Cultural Relationship© will be a book based on the experiences of couples who have both successfully and unsuccessfully: faced their partner’s cultural expectations that surprised, puzzled, or angered them; adapted to a partner’s culture; helped a partner adapt; learned what did and didn’t work for them.
You can be a part of this project, and be a resource for someone else. Whether you are in a relationship with someone from another country now, or you loved someone before and it didn’t work out, please take our anonymous survey now.
- If you are now in a relationship with someone from another country, please click here
- If you were in a relationship with someone from another country and are no longer together, please click here
At the end of the survey you have the option to enter a drawing for a $100 gift card from Amazon. If you are willing to be interviewed by phone, please send an email to (firstname.lastname@example.org). Interviews typically last about an hour.
We invite you to share your questions and experiences: your joys, your sorrows, your aggravations, your funny moments, what works and what didn’t work, about any and all aspects of your cross cultural relationship by posting a comment on our blog. From immigration to communication, infidelity to family, this blog is for you.
Please note: All content posted on our blog site may be used later as content for the book. By posting your information you are giving permission for us to use it. You will not be personally identified in the book.